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March 28, 2006

Today’s a bad day. For as long as I can remember, my Mom has had what doctors told her is Irritable Bowel Syndrome. Well, for about a year, it’s been virtually unbearable for her. She finally has health insurance and found a good doctor who referred her to a gastroentenologist (sp?). It turns out that she might have had IBS 15 years ago when all this started, but right now, and for quite some time, the source of her pain is an obstruction in her bowel. You see, my Mom has had some Mental Health problems in her history. And I truely believe that most doctors believe my Mom is making up her pain in her mind. That her symptoms are psycho-somatic, and if she could just get a hold on her feelings, the symptoms she “feels” will go away.

She has surgery scheduled for two weeks from now. And it might be cancer. There is no way of knowing until they can remove the tissue that is causing the obstruction.

I’m in no mood for anything. She’s my Mom after all, and I’m upset. But you know that person in your life who literally takes every ounce of your energy to deal with, well she’s that person for me too. This is going to be an incredibly hard time for all of us I’m sure, she’s got no living husband, and just me & my 18 year old sister to rely on.

I have RAKScraps Sponsor layouts to do this week, I opened close to 5 different pictures and scoured the sponsor folders, nada. I tried doing last week’s “Green” prompt for it’s a Chick’s Life, I’m already late on it, nada.

Maybe I’ll go and leave comments in my favorite galleries. I’m not going to bed anytime soon, I can tell you that.

OMGoodness! I didn’t start the Mom’s Life prompt this week! Off to do that now.

9 Comments leave one →
  1. March 28, 2006 12:51 pm

    Oh gosh Tania…I’m so sorry. So sorry for what your mom is going through and so sorry that it seems the GOOD doctors are so hard to find and when you do find one, it seems almost too late. I’m sending very strong anti-cancer vibes your mom’s way, k? And I wanted to tell you that I can totally relate to what you said about your mom taking every once of your energy just to deal with her. I love my mom to death and don’t know what I will do when she is no longer here to bug and annoy the heck out of me. LOL She has had major health problems her entire life and it is so hard to know when she has actual physical problems happening as opposed to emotional problems. Anyway, I’m rambling and hijacking your blog. Sorry! Just know that you have tons of friends who care and hope that all goes as smoothly as possible with your mom! I’ll be thinking of you!

  2. March 28, 2006 1:14 pm

    Oh, Tania. I wish I could say something to make it all better or that I could at least be there to give you a great big hug. I’ll be thinking of you and your sister and your mom. I hope the surgery goes well and brings good news.

  3. karen permalink
    March 28, 2006 1:19 pm

    Oh Tania, I’m so sorry about your mom. I am glad that she finally found someone to listen to her pain and get a better diagnosis. She will definitely be in our prayers as well as you and your sis. It’s tough w/all the other responsibilities you have at the moment, but hopefull it’ll help you get away a little during this waiting process.

  4. Melinda permalink
    March 28, 2006 2:00 pm

    Oh Tania, I am so sorry to hear this. You all will definately be in my prayers. It can do powerful things. About 8 months ago was when we first found out about my Dad’s cancer, and he has been sitting in my LR for the last week. All I could think about when we first found out was the worst possible scenarios- you definately need to be prepared for that sort of thing- but it won’t necessarily turn out that way. Treatments for cancer have come a long way in the last 5 years- other than my Dad’s hair being more gray (what has grown back anyway), and him moving a bit slower, you wouldn’t know that he had just gone through 6 months of chemotherapy treatments. I am glad she has found a doctor finally who was willing to look beyond the obvious.
    Hang in there and know that you can always call on me to help out with stuff at RAKs if you need it!

  5. March 29, 2006 1:33 am

    I’m praying for you and your mom, T. I can relate to the energy-vacuum mom too, so I can just imagine the turmoil of feelings you are going through. You know you can always email (or hell, you can call me if you want to) if you ever need to talk about anything. Sending lots of hugs your way!!!

  6. March 29, 2006 3:02 am

    Oh Tania! That’s so awful that they thought your mom was making it up. I don’t know… sometimes I think doctors think “women” in general make up their pain. Drives me crazy!! Even though it seems bad they did at least find something that they can try and fix. Prayers they don’t find cancer and if they do that they get it all. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and her overall pain will cease finally. Hang in there Tania!!!

  7. March 29, 2006 8:07 am

    I’m soooooooo sorry to hear this Tania. And I really hate doctors for that reason too sometimes. But I hope you know I’m hear for you – if you need help with RAK stuff or want to talk or anything! Big hugs to you all.

  8. leafroberts permalink
    March 29, 2006 12:55 pm

    That happened to my daughter-in-law, too. She was told she had IBS and later, when she started having horrible pains, the doctors would just give her more drugs and not even examine her. She almost died. She had a complete obstruction before someone believed how much pain she was having and she got to a specialist. They operated the next day. I agree that many doctors think women exaggerate pain. I think most of us do the exact opposite. We take care of everyone else and ignore our symptoms until they are unbearable.

  9. March 29, 2006 8:37 pm

    😦 I’m sorry to hear that your mom is having compications. I hope that she will pull through this just fine and that there will be no further problems after the surgery. For her sake and you and your sister’s. Best of luck to you!

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